The problem with sex work is this..

In short, sex workers are doomed.com

This is a blog I advertise on my escort profile page for clients to visit and this way they can get to know me and who I am and know who they will be booking. They are paying a large sum of money for our time and I believe this is something they should be offered before they do spend the large sum of money. I totally understand it’s not cheap, even I wouldn’t be able to afford to book me. (#jokes, but not really, I literally can’t afford myself, which is kind of crazy to think about).

However, sometimes when I discuss sex work on here or sexual-related content, I think I could be sending the wrong message to potential clients that could possibly negatively impact me. That, or I may lose clients from scaring them away, but this I don’t really fear. Mainly because, the clients I would scare away by discussing controversial sexual topics, are the kind of clients I would want to scare away. Plus, I had a pretty popular blog on Scarlet Blue .com when I was on it, which made me think most clients are understanding of my opinions on most things and a lot of the time I would get booked by men who follow my blog and have become fans.

For this reason, I absolutely think men understand and have meaningful compassionate and personal opinions on these subjects. Sometimes way more open-minded and have less shame-based opinions than non-sex worker females. Non-sex worker females can be a lot more negatively judgemental than men, and have opinions literally just based on hate or envy (I dont know where the hate comes from, we come in peace ladies lol). sometimes conservative sex workers can be the worse judges and spreaders of these negi opinions and constantly taking data from the most extreme cases of sex work to back up their hateful opinions…….hmm feminists who hate women, are we really heading there?

I was watching a debate between two feminists or a sex worker and a non-sex worker today. The non-sex worker brings up all the negative implications women who are open about their sexual needs have on them and the implications of promoting and being promiscuous on public platforms like OnlyFans also has on women.

She was mostly referring to sex workers and the impact it has on us and society and back around again to bite us again and again, impacting our immediate mental health and future consequences. One consequence is, she states and im paraphrasing, that men won’t take us seriously enough to wed us in a monogamous relationship (yeah because that kills my future plans right there lol. Most sex worker approach life a lot differently to non-sex workers and it seemed she didn’t take into account with this opinion), being an example of how this cycle can eventually keep having more and more negative consequences for us as sex workers in the future. She is basically referring to sex work only as a vicious cycle with no room to evolve whatsoever, and answering “no” when asked if there was room for anything positive to come from it, or some kind of question implying a question along those lines.

It seemed to this woman that sex work was 100% all doom and gloom, ok sure, so how would she know? She’s not a sex worker and I’m so annoyed with these smart well educated feminists silencing minorities of women like sex workers, with “statistics” (really?), always puzzles me. Basing your ideas on sex work using statistics is unfair because its an anonymous job and a lot of sex workers wouldn’t offer up any meaningful data on what the job is and how it affects us, and also due to the fact that it’s an extremely complex job and issue making it very hard to intellectualise whatsoever, and warrants a better investigation than just looking at statistics.

For this reason, I am of the mind and have a strong opinion that sex workers should be the only ones to have a public platform on the topic, based on the fact that it’s impossible to know unless you have been on the front line. I strongly believe this about feminism also, in that I don’t believe men should have any serious public opinion on the matter (comedians excluded of course), and never should a man be allowed to refer to himself as a feminist unless another female feminist grants him that privilege. This is because, typically these men who take it upon themselves to identify as feminists without being told they can be one by a female feminist, is usually problematic because the majority of men who claim this have problematic ideas on what feminism actually is which harms feminism more than helps it.

In any case, I am six years into doing the job and I’m still discovering new areas of the sex work and how it affects I/us and I haven’t even touched the surface yet I assume (I plan to run some the scientific method through some ideas of my own on the subject of what a sex worker is and how we evolve and what that means which will be written for sex workers but will be an asset in terms of authentic data on who we are as sex workers and how we differ from non-sex workers and why THAT IS OK, which I think will be important differences to highlight. Talking publicly with no shame about these differences will greatly improve these statistics this non-sex worker is drawing most of her opinions from, to become a lot more positive and this is one of my hypotheses but not the main one.

Sex work is definitely not all doom and gloom, it just has a high burnout rate because it’s a hardcore job. To be clear, I’m using the word hardcore to similarly mean I think a stock broker on Wall Street or professional musician or actor might probably have pressures within their job that can match this hardcore nature.

But sex work being ALL doom and gloom is actually just not true. However, the non-sex worker did bring up some credible points when it comes to dealing with the changes women have to make when becoming a sex worker and the implications of that. On the other hand, again I reitterate, that because she is a non-sex worker, she really wouldn't or couldn’t understand what those implications are and if they are all bad or have some positive possibilities potentially. Therefore she might as well just not have that opinion at all if it doesn’t contribute whatsoever to the evolution of the job.

Aella, a well known sex researcher and current escort but former full time escort working around the world in the job, is the opposing feminist/sex worker. She states, and I’m paraphrasing again, that if we keep pedalling all these negative narratives about sex and women and put them in a book and release it to the general public being sold at K-mart, this is not actually contributing to the evolutionon of sex work which would decrease the discrimination put on us. Which is obvious I think and also my opinion but again………Obvious (?? What’s blinding these women to these obvious conclusions, I don’t understand it?).

I used to advertise on Scarlet Blue which is/was the leading database to find quality private and non-private Australian verified and professional escorts in any state in Australia. I’ve recently left that platform, due to the fact they started asking for our real IDs (drivers licences or photo Id of some sort) and making us pay in Bitcoin only, which wasn’t working for me and this is extremely annoying and has impacted my life quite negatively. Scarlet Blue had a talent for weeding out the time waster clients by keeping standards high in all areas of presentation, including rules on the photos girls could put up, they had to have a high level of professionalism, and this made us who advertised on there look like “high class escorts,” which apparently time waster clients don’t fuck with as much as. “low class escorts” (same girls advertising on Scarlet Blue are the ones also using Locanto as well, the difference is a narrative not real). This treatment of escorts based on where they advertise makes sense because that’s how sex work in real life is also approached. Street sex workers do have more chance of harm on the job than escorts who advertise online (the narrative of a low and high class escort……not real), and also the less you charge the worst the clientele will be (another correlation between clients attitude and low and high class escorts).

I don’t charge any different than I did on Scarlet Blue though, I don’t look any different and nothing has changed about my hustle except where I advertise, which has evidently has dragged down the quality of my clientelle dramatically and increased the amount of time waster clients I have had to deal with DAILY. All because of this fucking narrative these men tell themselves about sex workers who advertise on this platform, opposed to that etc. And I have literally no similar alternative to Scarlet Blue which is so weird, it costs nothing to make a website like SB, the marketing would be the hard part but there are lots of people out there skilled enough to market the right clients to their platform, to level with SB. Why no one has done this over the last five years is kind of insane. What are people with money and industry knowledge doing at the moment?

We obviously need a more highly-evolved version of Scarlet Blue right now and I dont have enough expertise in making websites to do it or time or I would 100%. It would make someone very good money if not make them rich. Duh.

I deleted the APP blog (sex worker one) I wrote last week because I was accused by Facebook of soliciting prostitution for posting it and I guess it was inadvertedly. I didn’t consider that sex worker laws from state to state and country to country vary vastly, which is a fair call (Ill give you this one THIS TIME facebook….). But my sex worker app idea is a good idea! (lol). But I unfortunately don’t have the time to work on it right now, which sucks because right now is so perfect to get it going. PERFECT time to be exact and timing has so much to do with the success of anything and this is a really obvious good time in Australia to get it done right now.

This is because both clients and sex workers are dying right now in a sea of online fake escorts and fake clients. (Yes clients suffer from time waster fake escorts also). The other day I looked at eight profiles on Escorts & Babes where I now advertise and two of the profiles were real. That’s not a good ratio and I don’t know what E&B are thinking when allowing this to go on.

In saying that, it’s pretty obvious which escorts are fake and which are legit, there’s obvious signs and eventually the same goes for spotting fakes with time-waster clients as well. However, its more the number of fakes that both hinders legit workers and legit clients from finding each other and disenchants a lot of clients and they think we all are low-rent fakes on the site (low-rent fakes meaning girls run unfairly usually by male pimps or asian escorts pretending to be Australian who tbh are usually, but not always, sex slaves, which is not an escort at all) and so these men make it a hobby to try and fuck with us in the form of wasting our time. This is very tiring and burns us out faster than anything sometimes. I’d administer 30% or more of burnout on dealing with time wasters, which is horrific. Discrimination plays a big part in this as well. Which is interesting because these are both elements of the job when we aren’t actually working ! Very funny.

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So anyway, have you seen this girl Bobbi on youtube interviewing these rappers including Drake who has seemed to just pop out of no where who looks 14 but has two kids and is married. She’s stealing the Office humour framework to produce these interviews, it’s hard to work out whats real and whats rehearsed at times, I assume there is inprivised acting on both their parts. The Bobbi girl seems to have the office humour timing down and does it well. She brings the element of discomfort within her interviews experienced when watching David Brent do that spastic and at times disturbing dance in season 2 of the English office. hahaha. I always get the image of his Egyptian moves when I think about it.

Bobbi is using the American Office version of this humour in her podcasts, but that’s because she is Amercian and it seems to be appealing to the masses massively. It’s called the Really Good Podcast. It’s definitely worth watching if you are into youtube or podcasts and want something different to watch than Joe Rogan and his friend’s podcasts, who all talk about the same crap and interview the same people. Don’t they all realise we watch all of them and we see the passing around of guests. It is BORING. Lex Freidman, although an idiot, has the most interesting guests, but its all very white. Bobbi is doing it for modern hip hop, which is appealing to me but is weird because she’s super white lol. Seems to be a purposeful juxtaposition though. I recommend.

Just LUVVVVV it. ok?

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